以德服人

仁者，不以力制人，以德服人。

That was something that rang in my heart when I heard it.

We should not use fear (the threat of using force) to get people to do things. We should show them that it is because we care for them, which is why we are asking them to do those things. Sometimes, we take the easy way out because fear can be a big motivating factor, but we must always remember that fear only works when the threat is there, but if you gain a person's respect, he will continue to do what you ask even when you are no longer around.